What looking for 'friends to lovers' in lesbian dating bios ACTUALLY means

Queer ladies looking for love have noticed a trend emerging on dating apps — a request to start out as friends first. But what exactly does that mean?

The topic recently popped up in a lesbian subreddit after one user sought clarification.

"The way I communicate with a friend is entirely different from how I would communicate with someone I'm interested in romantically," u/MarrsMoon-Mara wrote. "Why join a dating app if there's no initial intent to explore a romantic connection?"

She wasn't alone in her frustration and confusion. Other people expressed a similar sentiment—that they act differently when they're interested in someone romantically—and that they don't want to come across as pushing boundaries or feel like they're being strung along for months by someone who doesn't even want to attempt to pursue a relationship but maybe isn't being honest about that.

But other redditors were happy to chime in with their own interpretations of why someone might request starting off as friends first in their dating app bio. The most prevailing theory was that it's coming from people who don't want to hook up or U-Haul on the first date, and instead prefer to take their time determining whether there's a real connection upon which to build a relationship.

Trending Stories

Lexi Love goes public with HIV status after Trump wipes resources from federal website

Joe Biden has tied the record for most LGBTQ+ judges confirmed in federal courts

Pride journey Walla Walla: An LGBTQ+ wine, food, and adventure getaway

Pentagon says it will start kicking transgender people out of military this month

Trump's orders prompt CDC to erase HIV resources

Gay icons collide in ​'Freakier Friday​' trailer

France becomes world’s first country to enshrine abortion rights in constitution

How climate disasters hurt mental health in young people

Transgender Rep. Sarah McBride calls out 'weird' obsession by Republicans in whose minds 'I appear to live rent-free'

Where to stay in LGBTQ+ Ireland: Castles, domes and luxury retreats

Trump's VA rescinds policy treating transgender vets with dignity (exclusive)

Trump is coming for your poppers: Major producer closes amid FDA crackdown

Amid the 'Mayhem,' Lady Gaga calls it 'violence' to silence queer people and their art

Luxury and community in South of France at Cinq & Sept

Antoni goes abroad — and finds there's 'No Taste Like Home'

Gerald Garth is determined to keep people of color happy and healthy through trying times

Elon Musk uses burner accounts on X, doesn’t fact-check: report

Discover why chic Costa Navarino is Europe's luxury getaway

Exclusive: Mike Maimone honors late husband Howard Bragman in new single “On My Way”

Plus nominated for 2025 GLAAD Media Award alongside industry giants like Vogue, People, and Variety

48 steamy celebrity Calvin Klein ads the gays won't forget

All 6 rogue Mississippi cops got long prison sentences in 'Goon Squad' torture of 2 Black men

BREAKING: Trump administration announces end to gender-affirming care for transgender veterans

Tamar Braxton spills on new cooking show, sends message to LGBTQ+ fans

SFAF's Dr. Tyler TerMeer says he'll continue to fight for health care for all

• 0
• 1
• 2
• 3
• 4
• 5
• 6
• 7
• 8