I once dated a girl whose sole turn-on was lovemaking - sweet gentle kisses on her stomach and subtle nuzzles on the nape of her neck. That relationship was short-lived. Don’t get me wrong; I am an advocate for sensual coitus. There are few things quite as emotionally charged and beautiful as a loving romp. That being said, sometimes I just want to be fucked and the lack of raw and animalistic hedonism was a real issue for me.
Things came to a head when, after a tough day of work, we were to meet at Here for a whiskey (or nine) which inevitably lead to us heading back to my place. In a lascivious (and alcohol-induced) act, I pulled out the double-sided dildo (considering the heavy and savage make-out session in the taxi home I thought it was appropriate - boy was I wrong). She seemed not only terrified but also confused. I immediately realized my girlfriend was in need of a tutorial. I tell you all of this only to pave the way for the following: a users guide and advocacy plea to make these pleasure machines a little less terrifying and a bit more user friendly.
Most of us have seen them, and a lot have had the pleasure of using them as well, but for all of the sheepish ladies out there who aren’t sure just how exactly to introduce the double sided dildo into the bedroom (or park, or car or bathroom, or kitchen or...well you get it) this one’s for you.
Double-sided dildos are not the same as double-pronged dildos, or at least most aren’t. Confused? Let me explain: double pronged dildos have two separate heads used for vaginal and anal stimulation, at the same time, on the same person.
Double-sided dildos are for two people to use at the same time and frankly, resemble a hotdog. These double-sided dildos can also feature another prong on each side for double penetration. Now that we’ve distinguished the two let’s move on.
Generally, and yes, I am speaking from experience, there is a bit of foreplay before popping out these charming knobs. Whatever it is that gets you and your lady in the mood, do it. When it comes time to really get the party started take out your little friend (mine happens to be purple), and put a condom on one side. This makes clean up much easier and helps keep your toys as sanitary as possible. Using water based lubricant wet the tip and shaft. Lubing up your little friend is super-important, as toys don’t excrete any natural oils or liquids, which can make insertion less pleasant. The easier the glide, the better.
You can use this lubed up side to pleasure your lady first if watching your lady get worked up excites you too. You can also prep both ends of the dildo before starting on your lady so that you both get going at the same time for a little dual ecstasy.
Most double sided dildos are flexible, and as a woman with taste, I wouldn’t buy one that wasn’t. I find that ones with no flexibility simply aren’t as comfortable. As with all sex toys, if you or your lady decide to go anal, never switch back to vaginal without thoroughly cleaning whichever toy you’re using. It often leads to infection, which is something we all want to avoid.
Remember it’s all about pleasure... Now go have some fun!
