16 Ways To Woo A Guy On Your First Date
| 02/02/23
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The cutest man on Earth has come into your radar. The conversation is perfect and you’ve set up your first official date. But what if the first impression dwindles fast? What if it never goes anywhere?
Hang on, take a breath, and take a beat. Here are sixteen suggestions to woo your man on your first date and keep him around for a second.
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There's some practical reason behind this (you need to organize the date, duh), but communicating beforehand lets your date know that you like him and want to talk more. Does it have to be every moment? No, but even just a little conversation here and there helps so much.
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Lunch dates usually involve a slow, get-to-know-you date together that may or may not continue later into the evening. Dinner dates, meanwhile, might have sex on the table from date one: especially if you both want a casual fling. Of course, this isn't a hard and fast rule, but the time you pick can suggest a lot about what you want in a relationship.
Not all dates require a suit. Many just need a good outfit. But you should still look your best. That means leaving the stained plaid for another time and going straight for the skinny jeans and cardigan.
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When you’re in conversation, use his name when you can. This little bit of personalization may seem strange at first, perhaps even a little off-putting, but it will show him that you care about him. Plus, with the way dates go these days, it’s never a bad idea to remind the person you’re with that you do, in fact, remember their name.
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If you're going dancing, you want to show him that you know how to move it. Not a good dancer? That's okay. What's more important is that you feel confident and happy in the moment. If you let yourself swing your hips, next thing you know you'll be showing him just how nicely you move.
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Don't look like you want to leave, don't let your mind wander, and be an active listener. Giving your date the attention they want will help your time together really blossom.
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You don't have to tell your date all of your secrets, but opening up a bit shows that you trust your date and want to communicate openly. Even a casual fling should have a little bit of open communication, especially if you want to get into the bedroom sooner rather than later.
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You know what's the cutest thing in the world? When your partner likes hearing you talk about what you're passionate about. Show an interest in him and he'll appreciate it, perhaps more than words.
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Like being in the moment, don’t check your phone. Ever. At all. Not even for the time. Unless you’re waiting for some sort of important phone call that has already been forewarned, leave it in your pocket. Or, better yet, maybe even leave it in your car and enjoy the damn date!
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Don't be afraid to flirt. You're on a date, after all. Tell him he's cute and he might try to keep up.
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Maybe you want something casual, maybe something a little more serious, or maybe you’re just trying to figure it out and staying open along the journey. Just be honest about where you are, mentally and emotionally, and what you’re looking for.
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He wants to take you stargazing on the rooftop or day drinking in the park? It might be a little unconventional, but try it out. It might just end up being a lot more fun than you thought.
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Every date has a certain flavor to it. Some are hot and heavy, others are long and bubbly. Fit into the chemistry that you two are feeling and go for it. That means if you and your partner are clearly going slow, no need to ramp it up. And if the bedroom comes up right away, well, why not entertain the possibility?
Alright, let's be blunt. Many times a first date goes from dinner to the bedroom in just an hour or two. That means you should always come prepared no matter what. Even just bringing a couple of condoms can be a lifesaver.
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If you look like you're having fun, your date will have fun. Simple as that. So take a deep breath, get your stuff packed, and get ready for your first date. You'll do fine!
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Everyone feels a little weird at first dates, even if they’re going well. We all experience the “does he like me or not” back and forth, so don’t play hard to get. If you like him, and you want to see him for a second date, make plans to see him again. If he denies the plans, you’ll know the interest is only one-sided.
Ana Valens is a trans woman and queer critic. She writes about representation in media and the daily lives of queer and trans women living in the United States. Alongside PRIDE, her work has been seen on Bitch Media, ZEAL, The Mary Sue, Kill Screen, and The Toast.
Ana Valens is a trans woman and queer critic. She writes about representation in media and the daily lives of queer and trans women living in the United States. Alongside PRIDE, her work has been seen on Bitch Media, ZEAL, The Mary Sue, Kill Screen, and The Toast.
Andrew J. Stillman is a freelance writer and yoga instructor exploring the world. Check him out at andrewjstillman.com or follow him @andrewjstillman on all the things.
Andrew J. Stillman is a freelance writer and yoga instructor exploring the world. Check him out at andrewjstillman.com or follow him @andrewjstillman on all the things.