5 Ways to Introduce Sex Toys in the Bedroom (Without Being Awkward AF)

Toys are a fun—and often hilarious—way to introduce something new to your sex life.

Whether you’re just hooking up or in a committed relationship, sex toys are a fun, and often hilarious, way to introduce something new to your sex life. There’s such a huge variety out there, and it can really transform your sexual experiences. Plus, it’s a great way to get to know each other better — and it doesn’t always have to be awkward. After all, if you’re sleeping with someone, things getting a little funky at times is just a part of the deal.

Here are some of our tips for how to push aside any awkwardness and skip to the sexytimes.

1. Talk about it first

A casual conversation about whether or not your partner is interested in sex toys can be the easiest way to get the ball rolling. It’s also a great way to get any fetishes out into the open. Bring it up when it feels natural, and remember that there’s nothing weird about wanting to try something new. Open communication is key 100% of the time.

2. Shop together

In store or online, look at toys together. There are literally thousands of sex toys and so many different ways you can use them. It’s a bonding experience to go through aisle after aisle or page after page to see which one (or which ones) look right for your interests.

3. Nervous? Start small

No one’s saying you have to go for the thousand-dollar piece of machinery that requires a room of its own and tons of electricity (not to mention stamina and bravery) right away. Find the cheapest, most “boring” toy out there, and start with that. No one’s judging!

4. Go solo

If there’s a toy you think looks fantastic that your partner isn’t into, give it a go on your own. Many sex toys can be used either with one or more people or by yourself, so feel no shame if you get a few things you’ll be keeping for your alone time.

5. Label sex toy talk a judgment-free zone

Sex toys are just toys. While they can be intimidating, at the end of the day it’s your decision to use them or not. They are only as powerful as you (and, well, their batteries) make them. But seriously, talk to the person or people you’re going to be using toys with, and make sure to label the sex toy convo a judgment-free zone, as any talk about bodies or sex should be.