Lesbians debate whether or not to be trad wives

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As we move into 2025, the collective energy among women is a little on the tense side as we wait to see if the United States of America transforms into Gilead from The Handmaiden’s Tale under Donald Trump’s impending rule.

The topic of all things femmemale has been hot for a while, especially when it comes to telling them what to do with their bodies or deciding on the roles they should play in both society and the bedroom.

Here’s the thing: There isn’t inherently anything wrong with wanting to have some “tradition” in your relationship, but it’s all about how you present it, and it’s more important about the delivery.

Over on the r/actuallesbians page on Reddit, user babybottlepopz ignited a conversation about the traditional roles women used to play in relationships pre-WWII, particularly in regard to being a stay-at-home housewife.

“I have no career goals, I just wanna be a wife,” she started the post. “It’s pathetic and such a hopeless romantic of me. I wish I had a job I was excited about or a job I was excited to learn about and grow and pursue. But I don’t. So I’m stuck being sad and unfulfilled until I find a wife. I hate that. I don’t want to rely on other people for that. Anyone else relate?”

I have no career goals, I just wanna be a wife
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The conversation, as usual, had split opinions, with some calling career goals a scam and others agreeing that they’d love an opportunity to stay home and simply be a wife. Conversely, some women also want to be the breadwinner in the relationship and would love to have a wife they can simply spoil.

“But really, what you should be looking for in a wife is not someone to support you financially, but someone who can help you feel happy with your life every day, no matter what that looks like,” one user said. “Finding a partner with money won’t automatically make you happy.”

This is sound advice, especially for those who teeter between the desire to play a “traditional” role in what society thinks in a relationship and doing whatever feels best for you.

In the end, it's really about finding the partner that most aligns with your vision of what you think a relationship should look like, so always seek that first and foremost.

In the meantime, keep scrolling for some of the varied responses to the conversation.