
CONTACTCAREER OPPORTUNITIESADVERTISE WITH USPRIVACY POLICYPRIVACY PREFERENCESTERMS OF USELEGAL NOTICE
© 2025 Equal Entertainment LLC.
All Rights reserved
All Rights reserved
Don’t miss our hottest news! Sign up today for our free newsletter.
Trending Tags
Trending Tags
By continuing to use our site, you agree to our Private Policy and Terms of Use.
Accept
Today's queer youth face a unique set of struggles in an increasingly connected world, one where people can critique one another freely with little to no consequence, and one where bigots can build online communities (mobs) and share violent and reductive commentary that makes the IRL world a little less safe every day. Representation is more important than ever to make sure everyone in the queer spectrum of every color, sexuality, gender, and identity feels like they have a voice and that they matter. This representation is powerful when stories people tell physically include people who look, talk, act, and live like them. However, this catharsis and empowerment can also happen when the characters we see and read are from other oppressed groups, whether they identify as female, are lower class, an immigrant, or more. Such is the case with '90s cult classic Buffy the Vampire Slayer.
While Buffy herself does not vocally identify as queer, she remains nevertheless a champion for many queer youth who needed a hero they could identify with. This connection is less because of her identity (although she still suffers the microaggressions and inequalities of being a young woman) and more about her story. She is the one and only Vampire Slayer. She has this characteristic thrust upon her and it isolates her from the people around her, in very much the same way that queer youth often feel alone when they initially come to terms with their identities.
When Buffy reveals her secret to her mother, the response is not good. Her mother, who is innocently problematic, and more ignorant than malicious, goes so far as to ask Buffy, "...have you tried NOT being a Slayer?" It's all a tongue and cheek play on what queer youth go through and the well-intentioned misconceptions even the best people around them often have. Keep in mind, this was a big concept for the '90s when the series originally aired.
You might be saying to yourself, "I still don't get why queer youth need Buffy." Queer youth don't need Buffy because of a Slayer-equals-queer metaphor. It's about the fact that Buffy deals with her identity throughout the seven seasons of the series, struggling to find her place in a world with people who are different from her, and forming and fostering her own safe community. Arguably, Buffy understands what it means to be different and how being different is something you have to reconcile every single day.
Buffy's demons are demons to be sure, but they're also symbols of struggles that we all face. It's this distinction that is often missed by people judging the show from the outside. It's not as simple as a beautiful, blonde girl fighting demons. When Buffy and her friends fight the big villains, they're fighting the monsters that we all have to face.
The show combats a spectrum of issues facing queer youth, both metaphorically and figuratively, including loneliness, depression, addiction, sex, solace, and abuse, both in friendships and romantic relationships. More than one of these areas may resonate with youth. Sometimes it's just one. But the reality is that the show ended back in 2003 and lives on today, both in nostalgia and academia (seriously!) because it has substance.
The show admittedly has its problematic elements. Its racial representation is sub-par and it plays into a dangerous queer trope late in the series, which I won't spoil. But these moments are few in the overall scheme of a show that really tried to make a difference for people who are different. The real tea though, is that Buffy, without exaggeration, helped keep me alive and helped keep me going when I was struggling with sexuality, gender, and adolescence and felt like I had no one to help me. It's been the most consistent presence in my life and I owe so much of who I am to Buffy the show, and Buffy the character.
Buffy is the raw, complex, emotional, imperfect, and underappreciated character that we need. In her own words, that resonate even today, "The hardest thing in this world is to live in it. Be brave. Live." Truer words have never been said for today's queer youth.
From our Sponsors
Most Popular
51 celebrities with OnlyFans accounts to thirst over
January 02 2025 11:55 AM
All-time greatest lesbian sex scenes in movies & where to stream them
December 13 2024 12:47 PM
34 same-sex couples who don't mind the age gap
December 17 2024 6:29 PM
Here are the reasons 'straight' men hook up with guys
December 17 2024 1:05 PM
Popular gay slang inspired by the animal kingdom explained
December 12 2024 1:25 PM
101 gay sex tips you didn't learn in sex ed class
December 18 2024 6:03 PM
18 old Hollywood stars you probably didn't know were LGBTQ+
December 04 2024 12:31 PM
​35 TV shows with bisexual male characters & where to watch them​
December 03 2024 12:01 PM
31 best himbo characters in movies & TV shows we can't help but love
December 17 2024 12:46 PM
The 55 best queer animated shows ever & where to watch them
December 18 2024 2:53 PM
Don’t miss our hottest news! Sign up today for our free newsletter.
Latest Stories
The 'King of Drag' teaser trailer is here — and we are royally impressed
May 02 2025 7:02 PM
'I Kissed a Girl' Jill Sobule, singer-songwriter, dies in tragic house fire
May 02 2025 8:45 AM
Monsignor MAGA Lindsey Graham morally capitulates, says Trump should be pope
May 01 2025 9:15 AM
'Harry Potter' star joins the fight for trans rights despite J.K. Rowling's views
April 30 2025 6:13 PM
Chris Stanley breaks silence, gives full breakdown on Bret LaBelle breakup
April 30 2025 3:38 PM
PRIDE NEWSLETTER - 5/2/25
May 02 2025 6:22 PM
Grindr is reminding us why jockstraps are so sexy and iconic
May 02 2025 5:36 PM
Meet the 10 hotties competing on 'I Kissed a Boy' season 2
May 01 2025 9:07 AM
Lorde's new album 'Virgin' explores gender identity and truth in music
May 02 2025 9:03 AM
11 sultriest lesbian and sapphic femmes in TV and film history
May 01 2025 6:08 PM
7 times lesbian and sapphic 'Drag Race' guest judges stole the show
May 01 2025 3:26 PM
Trending Stories
Recommended Stories for You
Buffy Flores
Aries/Taurus cusp, Latinx, vegan, femme person, and the biggest Buffy fan you know. Now writing for Bustle, PRIDE, Everyday Feminism, and The Rumpus. Passionate, deeply feeling, sometimes angry, mostly emotional. Wants to make people feel less lonely in the world. Follow them on Twitter @buffyonabudget.
Aries/Taurus cusp, Latinx, vegan, femme person, and the biggest Buffy fan you know. Now writing for Bustle, PRIDE, Everyday Feminism, and The Rumpus. Passionate, deeply feeling, sometimes angry, mostly emotional. Wants to make people feel less lonely in the world. Follow them on Twitter @buffyonabudget.