13 Times Ariana Grande Proved Herself To Be The Best Gay Ally

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Many musicians show support for the LGBTQ community these days, but few have been as outspoken, as fiercely protective or as honored by earning the title of “gay icon” as Ariana Grande. The singer has been an ally her entire life, and from the moment she became famous, she has used her platform to advocate for equality, acceptance, fierceness and to raise awareness and money for the best of causes.

Grande isn’t just another friend of the community, she’s among the best of the bunch. Here are 13 times the “Positions” vocalist proved herself to be a true gay ally.

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1. That time she single-handedly ended the binary.

Ok, not single-handedly but she definitely didn't hold back on her thoughts about gender identity and supporting her fans all across the spectrum.

In a Q&A with the pop star uploaded to YouTube in celebration of the brand's one-year anniversary at Ulta Beauty, Grande said any of her fans, regardless of gender, could wear makeup. "Makeup is not gender exclusive, nothing is. What is the binary?” she said. “All makeup, any makeup, R.E.M Beauty. Everything you want to wear you should wear, it doesn’t matter. F**k the binary.”

Period!

2. Headlined Pride Events Around The World

Once she became a star and had a catalog full of pop hits, Grande began performing at Pride festivals and ceremonies. In 2015, she headlined Dance on the Pier, the biggest concert connected to New York City Pride. In the more than 30 years the event has been staged for thousands of LGBTQ attendees, it has been commanded by fellow pop titans like Cher, Demi Lovato, and even Madonna.

A few years later, Grande also headlined Pride in Manchester, in the U.K. Her performance was particularly important and moving, as a terrorist once set off bombs at the arena where one of her concerts had just finished, killing more than 20 people.

3. Brotherly Love

Anyone who has been following Grande even slightly knows by now that she has a brother who is openly gay and unafraid to live as flamboyantly as possible. Frankie has also made a career in the entertainment world, as a reality TV staple, singer and actor. Grande has not only helped raise her sibling’s profile and showered him with love publicly, but she doesn’t mince words with those who are unkind to him because of his sexuality.

In 2014, when a random person on the internet referred to Grande’s brother as “that homo” on Instagram, the chart-topper stepped in and shut him down. "That ‘homo' is the fiercest, most incredible, funniest, most intelligent, kind-hearted and most LOVED person on the face of the planet!" She went on to conclude her retort by saying, “Oh and also ‘that homo' gets more ass than you'll ever get in your life. k miss thing?"

4. “Break Your Heart Right Back”

Grande’s debut album Yours Truly was surprisingly successful, but it was her sophomore effort My Everything that turned her from an exciting new figure in pop to a household name. The full-length produced the smashes “Problem” with Iggy Azalea, “Break Free” with Zedd (more on that in a minute) and "Love Me Harder" with the Weeknd, but there was one song on the CD that’s known for being particularly, well, gay.

“Break Your Heart Right Back” is about a boy cheating on a girl with another boy. Grande said it’s written from her real life, as she’s “99% positive” that a man left her for another male suitor. As if that wasn’t enough to make the tune an LGBTQ anthem (and show that she supports those who have to go through this diffuclt situation), the cut also samples Diana Ross’ “I’m Coming Out,” one of the most iconic gay songs ever.

5. She Changed Religions

Grande was raised Catholic, but when she became old enough to understand the church’s position on homosexuality and to make decisions for herself, she booked it and found another way to worship, one that was far more accepting. “When my brother was told that God didn’t love him I was like, ‘OK, that’s not cool,’” she told The Independent in 2014. At the time, she decided to investigate the Kabbalah center that was being built near where she was growing up in Florida, and it didn’t take much for her to switch.

6. Her Support Of Marriage Equality

Marriage equality is the law of the land these days, but it wasn’t that long ago that it wasn’t legal for two men to get married all across the U.S. While performing at Dance on the Pier in 2015, Grande showed her support for the initiative, and also called out the Supreme Court justices who didn’t vote in favor of equality (the case, Obergefell v. Hodges, passed with a 5-to-4 majority). 

“Make some noise if you think the Supreme Court justices who voted against gay marriage should get their heads out of their fucking asses and join the goddamn celebration. Make some noise if you've got one less problem without them motherfuckers," she shouted to the audience of thousands of LGBTQ+ fans.

Oh, and in a bit of coincidence, Grande’s birthday falls on the day the Supreme Court officially declared that states must support equal marriage.

7. Her Gay Anthems

Grande’s catalog is packed with hits, and several have earned the title of being “gay anthems.” Most artists are lucky to have just one tune be declared a favorite among the LGBTQ community, but with several in her arsenal, the Grammy winner’s collection is incredibly gay.

2016’s “Into You” is perhaps most rememebred as being a gay anthem, and many very-online fans are still mad it didn’t reach the top 10 (it peaked at No. 13 on the Hot 100 in America). Two years later, her comeback single “No Tears Left to Cry” was also instantly heralded as an important song for the community. She hit No. 1 in 2020 alongside fellow gay icon Lady Gaga on the Grammy-winning “Rain on Me,” which is still entertaining LGBTQ audiences everywhere.

8. The “Break Free” Music Video

Grande’s single “Break Free” is undeniably a bop, though it hasn’t quite earned the status of being a gay anthem…but perhaps that should be changed due to the tune’s music video. The visual is camp excellence, with a throwback sci-fi space age vibe powering the Zedd-featuring dance production. In the clip, two male aliens kiss, which must have pissed off some conservatives at the time (not that she cared).

9. Loves Being A Gay Icon

In 2014, Grande was interviewed by (seemingly now defunct) Australian outlet The Riff, and during the chat, she was asked her thoughts on being labeled a gay icon. Most artists would say something nice about the honor, but the singer took things a step further, commenting, “That’s my favorite thing anyone’s ever said to me in my entire life.”

10. Hates Homophobes

V Magazine recruited Ryan Murphy to interview Grande, as the two were busy promoting Scream Queens at the time. In the far-reaching chat, the singer and actress opened up about being an “old soul” and how some days she feels great pushing her sex appeal, while at other times, she doesn’t love it so much (which is very relatable).

Grande also talked about how she doesn’t understand people who hate the LGBTQ+ community. "I wasn’t raised in a household where it was considered abnormal to be gay" she said. "So for me to meet people who use the word f***** as an insult, with a derogatory meaning, I can’t take it. I don’t understand it. It’s so foreign to me.”

She went on to add that, "I hate the intolerance. I hate the judgment.” She took things a step further and commented, “When you see someone you love hurting, for such a superficial, bullshit reason, it’s like, how small and spiritually unenlightened and dumb as fuck can a person be? How much further can your head get up your ass that you’re actually judging someone as a person based on their sexuality before you even have a conversation with them?"

11. She Included her LGBTQ+ BFFs in the "Positions" Music Video

Grande released her latest track "Promises" alongside a music video for the song. The video, directed by Dave Meyers, is an incredibly fun twist on the track itself which is quite a sexy (but still fun) tune.  While the words talk about being able to change positions for your man, the video is more about the versatility of women, being able to do everything at once. This is best illustrated with Grande posed as president, running the world, looking good, while also having time to make pasta.

For her cabinet, Grande reached out to a few queer friends! In the mix are Tyler Ford, Misha Lambert, Victoria Monet, and Tayla Parx. The four are friends and frequent collaborators for Grande. Parx co-wrote the massively successful "thank u, next" as well as "7 Rings," and "NASA" but has also written for other stars. Monet collaborated with Grande on "Monopoly" while also writing for tracks like "Be Alright" and "Let Me Love You." Lambert, who is a singer-songwriter as well, grew up with Grande in Boca Raton. Lastly, there's Ford who is a writer and editor, who also grew up with Grande in Florida and has maintained a close relationship with since. 

Words first appeared in Out.

12. She Features LGBTQ+ Dancers in Performances and on Tour

At the 62nd Annual Grammy Awards in 2020, Grande premiered a medley of her thank u, next hits, and one of the dancers continually at her side is Darrion Gallegos. In a pink corset, silk short shorts, and heels, he is dressed no different than any of the other dancers. Neither is his choreography, and he’s definitely hitting it with the best of them.

This isn’t the first time Gallegos has danced for Miss Grande. In 2019 he went on the Sweetener World Tour with the star. “Thank you from every bit of my heart,” he wrote on Instagram in a message to Grande as well as some dancers and choreographers from the project. “You helped me see so much more within myself and become the man I needed when I was younger. Also thank you for allowing me to gender bend the fak out of this world nd[sic] contribute my part for the LQBTQIA+ community. You allowed me to be a part of something so huge and for that I am forever thankful.”

These words originally appeared in Out.

13. Raising Money For Trans People

In March 2022, Grande took her support of the LGBTQ community a step further and started putting her money where her mouth is. She announced on Instagram that she was raising money “to support organizations providing direct services and advocating for the rights of trans youth !” She went on to explain her timing, saying, “Right now there are hundreds of disgraceful bills pending in state legislature that target trans youth and aim to curb their rights. this will provide critical funds to organizations advocating for the rights of trans youth. please share & swipe to find out more about where exactly our money is going !!!”

Grande stated that she was hoping to raise a total of $3 million, with $1.5 million of that coming from her own pocket as she matched the $1.5 million she was aiming to get her followers to donate.

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