8 Lessons I Have Learned From Being in a Poly Relationship

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McKenna is a freelance writer, Netflix addict, and Colorado State University alumna. Her hobbies include sleeping, staying indoors, and crop top advocacy. #CropTopsForAll

You never know what you'll learn about yourself.

If you want to learn more about yourself through serious self-reflection and contemplation, the quickest way to do it is to enter into a polyamorous relationship.

I recently found myself a happy participant in a poly relationship – my first poly relationship – and let me tell you, it’s been a journey. For me, polyamory was a totally new adventure in my life. It had always been a possibility, sure, and I pictured myself potentially having one later in life when I’ve had more experience, both in relationships and in life in general.

And, yet—here we are.

Yes, here we are. And I can safely say that throughout the relationship thus far I have learned a lot. I’ve learned valuable dos and don’ts for creating healthy relationships. I’ve learned to broaden my definition of what romantic love looks like and how romantic relationships look. I’ve learned about myself.

Yes, there are many things to be learned in a poly relationship; things such as…