Tommy Dorfman Announces Engagement to Mystery Woman

Tommy Dorfman is engaged!

The actress recently spoke with Rachel Bilson on her podcast about how her life has changed since coming out as trans a year ago, and splitting up with her husband earlier this year.

“I knew I was interested in women in a way that I hadn’t really been aware of since high school,” Dorfman said. “I had this unresolved, unexplored thing. I was like, ‘This is the year that I’m gonna go on some dates with girls and feel that out again, and not feel ashamed about it.’”

Although she didn’t reveal her new fiancée’s identity, she did call her “the person I’m going to spend the rest of my life” with and said the relationship is “very affirming.”

Dorfman was previously married to Peter Zurkuhlen for five years, with a four year relationship predating their marriage. The two called it quits last summer and publicly announced their divorce in February of this year. 

“I love him so much but we’ve been learning that as a trans woman, what I’m interested in is not necessarily reflected in a gay man,” she said at the time.

The actress also told Bilson that had it not been for 13 Reasons Why, she might have ended up transitioning sooner than she did.

Dorfman played Ryan Shaver, a cis gay male teen, on Netflix’s high school drama, and felt obligated to do right by that role.

“For me, I feel like I kind of got stuck in time for a minute, like I actually had to put lot of stuff that I maybe thought I was going to work on, or I thought I would do, or like personal developmental things, I had to kind of compartmentalize those things and put them away,” she said. “When it came to anything around dysphoria or gender or stuff that had already been really present, I was like, ‘Nope, that's not for now, I'm working.’”

Dorfman’s full conversation with Bilson can be found here. 

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