Lilly Singh on Coming Out: 'The Warfare in My Mind Has Been Hard'

While it’s only been a little over six months since YouTuber and soon-to-be late night host Lilly Singh came out publicly as bisexual, it’s been a year since she started coming out to friends. To commemorate the occasion, she took to Instagram yesterday to share some things she’s learned during the course of her journey so far.

“Firstly, I’ve learned that there is NOTHING more important than living your truth,” she wrote. “It’s scary, it’s nerve wrecking and often times it’s painful but ultimately it is worth it. Period.”

While Singh’s post is overall positive and she expresses gratefulness that others have said her coming out has inspired them to come out in their own lives, she’s also insistent that people realize it’s not all sunshine and rainbows.

“I’d love to tell you that everyone was supportive and that people didn’t treat me differently but I’d be lying. Even if I ignore the actions of others and focus on myself, admittedly dealing with the warfare in my mind has been hard.”

She added: “Coming out lifted a weight off my shoulders but at the same time it placed the weight of judgment on my chest.”

When the comedian came out back in February, she did so in a thoroughly straightforward no-nonsense kind of way, tweeting a series of words that describe her, and ending with “bisexual.”

“Throughout my life these have proven to be obstacles from time to time. But now I’m fully embracing them as my superpowers,” she wrote at the time.

And while publicly outing herself has undoubtedly come with challenges, Singh doesn’t seem to have any regrets, only lessons she hopes to share with others.

“Why am I sharing all of this? Because over the past year I learned the power of being kind to other people even if they’re different,” she wrote.

“Kindness, compassion and humanity can go a really long way. Add light, not darkness. Love each other.”