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11 White Lies You Tell Before Coming Out

"I don't really like labels."

Yezmin Villarreal

<p>Yezmin always has a coffee in her hand. She's a writer from Phoenix, AZ, who is interested in the intersection of race, sex, and gender in pop culture.</p>

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Yezmin Villarreal

YezYes

March 02 2015 6:00 PM EST

May 26 2023 1:03 PM EST

1. When you tell your friends you don't need to come out to your parents because "they probably already know" even though you know they don't.

2. When people ask you, "So are you into boys or girls?" and you say you don't like labels.

3. When your parents ask you about your weekend and you try to find a way of avoiding naming the only gay bar in town.

4. When your gay friends try to make you feel more comfortable about coming out and it only pushes you more back in.

5. When you mentally prepare yourself to answer friends' questions because you know they will ask how the coming out process is coming along (it's not).

6. When people ask you, "Are you dating anyone?" and you think of a crazy, unrealistic story to explain why you aren't.

7. When your crush gives you an ultimatum.

8. When you tell one of your friends that you're not even sure who you actually like, and they're like, duh.

9. When everyone at your high school had a crush on Justin Timberlake, but you had your eye on the pop star he was dating.

10. When you get caught kissing someone by a friend that doesn't know you're gay, and you're like, well this is a good time as any to say...